5 TIPS TO MAINTAIN A RELATIONSHIP

Are you single and would like to maintain your relationship with your loved one? I know, it hurts to lose someone you ever thought of being your husband/wife. Are you married and want your relationship with a partner to ever-last? Truly, there is nothing hurting, even killing like living with a partner a couple of years, and all of sudden, you depart, divorce. Some people think that it's okay to leave a girl/boy whom you were dating. However, this is not true. If the guy was not important to you, you wouldn't even have tried to date. Likewise, people think that divorcing someone is a good solution. But, it's not. True, its a solution but the worst one. 

Now, how to maintain relationship either still dating or in marriage? I have brought you tips/techniques that will surprise you when applied. Believe me, you will immediately notice positive changes in your relation. 

5 TIPS TO MAINTAIN A RELATIONSHIP

1. Build Trust
2. Be Communicative
3. Avoid Excuses
4. Keep Promises
5. Bring a Comfort

   1.  Build Trust

(BASTIDA, 2020)

Truly, any kind of relationship relies on the trust the involved parties demonstrate to each other. This is more important than any other way when it comes to a relationship between dating people and partners in marriage. When no trust, believe me, no relationship. Then the question is how to build it. Maybe you know it is important but end up failing. Some people fail this because they want to be trusted but don't strive for it. For your partner to trust you, you need to prove it. Always tell her/him all the truth and never lie. Some people have secrets that their partners never know. How comes you want to be trusted while you didn't trust him/her and reveal that secret to her/him. This means, you also need to trust first. Your actions proving the trust you have towards him/her will entice the other person in trust. Hence, a happy relationship in dating/marriage.

   2. Be Communicative

God has inherently given us power to communicate. All parts of ours can communicate. Leverage them. I don't have to round about importance of communication, you know. However, some people don't know what to communicate. They think, "this is minor, she/he doesn't need to know." Truly, they are wrong. Your partner needs to know everything about you, about your day, about your job, about your friends, about your family, about , about... This is what you aught to do. Make your partner feel connected and together with you despite being in distance. When she/he knows you're going to eat, she/he feels like seeing you eating. Make that feeling happen and the relationship will lead the way.

   3.  Avoid Excuses

(Pinesett, 2018)

When you start excusing, you think you're making your relationship sustainable. Now, note that you are fouling up the relation. Saying that you should avoid excuses, I don't mean commit mistakes and behave as if everything is well. I don't mean do whatever you want despite your partner's emotions/reactions. All I mean is "Do your best to avoid any mistake. Do your best to do not hurt her/him. Do your best to do what you agreed upon." Doing all this, you'll find your relation pretty good and with no any excuses. 

Note: Be prepared to let your partner of in case of committing mistakes. Don't say, "Lol, I am not committing mistakes but see what he/she is doing." Probably, your actions will take him/her in the same box you are. Condone her/him and keep your way of avoiding excuses; he/she will one day imitate you.

   4.  Keep Promises

(Delhi, 2019)

Have you ever been promised and your other party in the promise broke it? Even if someone promises you to offer you Rwf 1000 and don't bring the promise to happen, you will get worried despite the littleness of the money. Imagine if it comes to your loved partner! If you promise him/her "I call you after thirty minutes", believe me, she/he is counting that. She/he is waiting patiently and eagerly to talk to you. Imagine the feelings you arise when you don't call, bitterness, sadness, anger, and so forth. One day while the relation was still in the starting, my darling, Theodette promised me a hug on the occasion of meeting. When we met, she said, "I am not ready." I felt crying. I would even have cried, if it was not on a street. Imagine how a hug is usual, but I was worried a lot because I didn't get by the time as it was promised. 

Then imagine the promises you give your partner if they are not brought true. Only bitterness, sadness and such negative emotions will arise. Do as best as you can to fulfill any promise to your partner. If you promise to call, just call. If you promise to buy something, just buy. If you promise to go out, just take her/him out. 

(Delhi, 2019)

   5.  Bring a Comfort

There is something I have come to realize. And, in fact, if you are a great observant and situational learner, you might have observed the same thing. Your partner thinks you're the most important, meaningful, supportive, essential person in his/her life. When in troubles, hardships, she/he wants you to be actively present. Not only in actions but also help realize the possibility of good future. Know that you are the only creature she/he has to comfort during bad situations. If your presence is not realized, the situations worsen even more. So, if you love your partner, avoid worsening situations. Comfort, help, show ways to a better future.

I hope you have learnt how important it is to "Build Trust", "Be Communicative", "Avoid Excuses", Keep Promises" and "Bring a Comfort" to maintain your relationship with your dating girl/boy or with your marriage partner. If you find any you didn't apply, start now practicing. When you become good at this, you will see what good it brings. 

References

BASTIDA, M. (2020, February 09). 45+ Trust Quotes. Retrieved from https://www.lovequotesmessages.com/trust-quotes/

Delhi, N. (2019, 02 10). 15 Promises you need to make to your partner this Promise Day for a happy relationship. Retrieved from https://www.indiatvnews.com/lifestyle/relationships-15-promises-you-need-to-make-to-your-partner-this-promise-day-for-a-happy-relationship-503696

Pinesett. (2018). No Excuses, Just Love: Pre-med Relationship Advice Ep. 01 - Videos. Retrieved from https://trends.edugorilla.com/no-excuses-just-love-pre-med-relationship-advice-ep-01/